I couldn’t even reread yesterday’s post—remind me never to blog while grumpy.

So we figured out the root of this week’s napping difficulties: last weekend’s visit to my parents. It hit me earlier today, when Felix fell peacefully asleep in my lap, and then woke up crying when I put him down. While at Nana and Pop-pop’s he was almost always in someone’s arms, and he was almost always a sleepy little angel.

Mystery solved, now we have to figure out how to help him learn to fall asleep on his own. This afternoon, I gave him his pacifier when he started fussing. He then spat it out, but I gave it to him again, and we played this game until he tired of it and drifted off. Maybe a few days of this and he’ll learn I’m not going to just pick him up?

Also—I’ve resolved not to complain so much about him. Really Felix is a wonderful baby, but I think it sounds like I’m bitching about him from some of the past posts. I don’t know. I’m not always the gushing “he’s such a miracle” type. And it was a challenging week with him. But I want to make sure I don’t sound like a sour old man up here, because that’s not how I feel.


2 Responses to “Aha!”

  1. 1 Julia July 3, 2009 at 3:17 am

    I just read your ‘grumpy’ blog and it came across as perfectly reasonable to me. A story needs tension, right? You get very stuck in the moment with a demanding infant, but after about a year they definitely become more like another human being, someone you can negotiate with, and allow a certain amount of independence. As for training a baby to sleep – sorry, but I think your neighbour’s kidding herself that what she did had anything to do with her baby’s sleep patterns. And don’t ever think other people can do it better than you. Not true! And certainly not helpful.

    • 2 briangresko July 3, 2009 at 6:09 am

      Thanks Julia! My dad says the same thing — the demands a baby makes are exhausting, and frustrating, and at times a pain in the ass. It doesn’t take away from the joys of watching him grow or the satisfaction of caring for him or the beauty of those moments when I can see a flash of personality and experience a moment of connection, if anything, it only deepens the positive parts and makes me appreciate them when they happen. S and I both find talking to other people a mixed blessing. It’s both helpful to get advice yet can also makes us doubt ourselves or think we’re missing something. Damn these neuroses! Like you said–not helpful.

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