Comments on: Finding Time

By: titus2woman

titus2woman — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 17:34:11 +0000

I just read Felix’s entire birth story, and I’m in tears! I’m so glad it linked to Hazel’s so I could glean from it. We are expecting again, and I must admit that the fear of the pain and HARD WORK of labor grows with each child. His pic is sooo precious and helps me to focus on the purpose behind it all~OH is he BEAUTIFUL!

BTW~you write beautifully! LOVED the Daddy’s perspective on it all! ~smile~ (((((HUGS))))) sandi

By: briangresko

briangresko — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 10:24:53 +0000

Great advice Daniel, though something I’m definitely struggling with. It certainly is a big shift from post-baby life, when it was easier separating out my time from all the other tasks I had to do. This is something I tend to do: apportion my attention and engagement, schedule out my day. My new intention is to be flexible and go with the flow. There’s joy in every moment, whether caring for Felix, running errands, or relaxing with a book. Does this sound like Zen and the Art of Childcare?

Thanks for the lovely comment Camille! Best of luck on your wedding.

By: Camille

Camille — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 05:13:45 +0000

Brian, I have spent this morning reading your entire blog from start to finish. What a joy. Your (and S’s) personal journey has been breath taking. I wept so much reading your labour entries – my god. I found myself saying out loud words of encouragement to S during those dark parts. I’m so releived and glad that you all made it!

As a wife to be (Winter next year – your Summer, I’m southern hemisphere) and a mama hopefully soon after, I related so much to your earlier beliefs of not wanting children but then changing ten fold. What is a life without making life? Sigh!

Please keep up with the writing here when you can, your transition and insight from a husband’s perspective are quite amazing.

By: Daniel

Daniel — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 14:16:52 +0000

Finding functional time to do essentials is a constant process. For a while after Dahlia was born, I continued to divide up my time: I’d give whatever time Dahlia needed, then whatever time my wife needed, then I would use whatever was left over to read, write emails, websurf, or run. But more and more I think of all that time as my own. My time with Dahlia, or with the family, or just the wife and me, is all my time, time for myself.

Felix is one beautiful little boy!